As mothers, we all make different choices. From how we raise our children to how we shape our careers, there is NOT a one-size fits all approach. This I know for sure.
Still, I’ve always been interested and curious to see how other moms “do” it. I know firsthand that finding harmony between work, children, spouse, friends, and me-time is a constant challenge. By taking a behind-the-scenes peek into the lives of others, I often come away with some specific tools and inspiration.
Earlier this month, we caught up with Kristin Swenson, mother of two and co-founder of BonBon Rose Girls, one of our favorite fashion forward blogs designed for stylish moms on a reasonable budget.
From blogging conferences around the country to New York Fashion Week, to play dates and family dinners, Kristin is a busy woman. She gave us a glimpse into how she balances her busy career and her role as mom. As usual, the reminder that we are not alone in our quest to find harmony with it all was a welcomed reassurance!
Most of us mamas struggle with our work/life balance. Am I right? We chose to have our beautiful little cherubs and they come first, but that doesn’t mean we have to let all of the other parts of us that make us fulfilled women go by the wayside. So, how do we achieve the perfect amount of balance? The answer is we can’t. Something is probably going to get shortchanged at some point or another. And that’s ok.
For me, it’s often housework that gets the short end of the stick. I have a 13 month old and a five year old who demand my attention, as well as a work from home career that I cherish. So, after my babies are taken care of and my deadlines are met, there isn’t always time to mop the floors. I’m able to keep my kids at home with me by working on my blog and fashion articles during naptime and much of the evening. Thankfully, I have a partner who is very involved and when I have to work at night, he takes care of a lot of the household chores. And sometimes we have a lovely cleaning lady who gives our home the deep scrubbing it deserves. Haha! My mama even comes over from time to time to help get things organized. My advice to you is… ask for help when you need it and don’t feel guilty about it. Nobody can do it all.
I think many of us put the burden to take of everything on ourselves and it took me a long to time to accept that my house was probably going to be messy until the kids went to bed… And gourmet meals were not going to happen on the regular, if it all. Haha! But what I do have are two kids that know they’re loved, a wonderful marriage and a flourishing career. Whatever “balance” I’ve achieved works for us. What works for you? I would love to know!
Before I leave you, I have two final suggestions… I’m sure you’ve heard it before, but unplug when you can. I’m definitely working on unplugging more. Although, my job requires daily use of social media, sometimes I just need to take a time out from all the gadgets and apps and spend quality time with my little family. As much as I love what I do, being a mama and wife are more precious to me than anything else! So, every now and again a date night is in order too, because mommy and daddy need quality time all on their own. Just sayin’!
Kristin Swenson is the fashion obsessed founding partner of BonBonRoseGirls.com. She lives in Tampa, FL with her husband and two children, enjoys styling, writing, and is on a constant hunt for ways to help the girls next door – whether they’re busy career gals or harried mamas – stay hip and fashionable! You can connect with Kristin on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram or Google+!
Family Photo Credit (top right): Best Part Photography www.bestpartphotography.com
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